Ethical non-monogamy seems to be everywhere right now. On paper, monogamy feels limiting. To get your lover, your best friend, your life partner, your equal, your teamate⦠all in the one person? Plus, it seems unrealistic to commit yourself to having sex with one babe for the rest of your life.
I love the idea of having sexual freedom and being allowed to express that side of myself without any shame or barriers. In my last relationship, we spoke about opening it up sexually.
As a bisexual person, I was feeling restless to have sex with women again and for some reason, I wanted to do it alone, without him. According to evolutionary psychologist David M. Buss , apparently not. He says that humans are actually innately inclined towards non-monogamy. So, I decided to ask some people who have given it a go.
Here are stories from two people, who attempted to open up their relationship, where that urge came from, what they learnt through the process and how they feel about it, now. He was a backpacker from Scotland and I fell in love almost immediately, but he was very emotionally unavailable.
The sex was adventurous, and very much directed by me. I was always the initiator. I went through a personal health issue early in the relationship, while he was overseas. We ended up breaking up for a few months because I felt so angry that I had to got through it alone.
